Started by Valigarmander, June 10, 2015, 05:16:06 PM
QuoteThe internetâ€™s in an uproar today over the comments of teeny-tiny sex columnist Dr. Ruth Westheimer, who said in an interview Monday that itâ€™s â€œnot possibleâ€ to change your mind about having sex with someone once all parties are already naked. Weâ€™ll remind you that Dr. Ruth is 87 years old.In a interview with Diane Rehm to promote her new book The Doctor Is In, Dr. Ruth, as the Washingtonian reports, expressed some controversial views on consent: I am very worried about college campuses saying that a woman and a manâ€"or two men or two women, but I talk right now about women and menâ€"can be in bed together, Diane, and at one time, naked, and at one time he or she, most of the time they think she, can say â€œI changed my mind.â€ No such thing is possible. In the Talmud, in the Jewish tradition, it says when that part of the male anatomy is aroused and thereâ€™s an erection, the brain flies out of that and we have to take that very seriously, so I donâ€™t agree with that.As the internet started getting mad today, Dr. Ruth added this:I am 100% against rape. I do say to women if they don't want to have sex with a man, they should not be naked in bed w/him.That's risky behavior like crossing street against the light. If a driver hits you, he's legally in the wrong but you're in the hospital.Once again: Dr. Ruth was born 87 years ago.This isnâ€™t the first time sheâ€™s expressed that sex is a â€œno backsiesâ€ situation; she told a Haaretz columnist in March that she planned to tell the Israeli Bar Association the same thing: â€œI do not believe that when partners are naked they can say at any time â€˜I changed my mind,â€™â€ Westheimer plans to tell the lawyers at the convention. â€œIn the Talmud they say, when that part of the male anatomy is aroused, the brain flies out of the head.â€ In other words, she adds: â€œItâ€™s nonsense to suddenly, at the height of sexual arousal, say â€˜I changed my mind.â€™ It will lead to many more problems. The idea of consent is nonsense. Except consent before they are naked in bed.â€Just a reminder that yes, you can change your mind at any point during sex. Dr. Ruth is not the boss of you, and right though she may be on the joys of spanking, if someone asks you to stop having sex with them, you should do so.
Quote from: aitm on June 10, 2015, 07:53:01 PMReligion aside, I would agree with her argument, once you're naked the guy is not about to go all moral at the drop of a word. Sure we can, and we have..but it is a risky proposition. I agree with her, once you're naked and rubbing bellies, something is about to happen.
Quote from: Mermaid on June 10, 2015, 07:58:31 PMSo it's her fault if he proceeds to have sex with her against her will?
Quote from: aitm on June 10, 2015, 08:48:36 PMshe made her point quite well, men don't often think with the big head when the little one is stiff and ready.
Quote from: aitm on June 10, 2015, 08:48:36 PMIf you don't want to have sex, maybe you should not get naked and crawl in bed and start rubbing against the guy..you know?
Quote from: TomFoolery on June 10, 2015, 09:01:51 PM if a woman is having sex with a guy and she asks him to stop mid-stroke, he needs to stop.
Quote from: AllPurposeAtheist on June 10, 2015, 10:28:12 PMSo the take away guys is if you're fucking and about 1.3 seconds from ejaculation and she or even he changes their minds you should just go, "Well ok then..", pull out and chalk it up to. ..well, you know. . No harm, no foul and whatever the other person wants even 1.3 seconds before blast off.. Well I'm so glad we've cleared this whole sticky situation up before it became stickier...