I Feel Alone

[elconquistador]

I spent a lot of time on exmormon boards before coming here, and commiserating with a lot of hurting people. I didn't really fit in there because I am one who is more inclined to get determined and proactive than otherwise. A lot of the people there were obviously in need of sympathetic ears and needed to heal. I wasn't very good at being a sympathetic ear, because I'm more like grit my teeth and man up, or whatever.

Not good at counseling for that reason. But I certainly understand. Met a few women whose lives were destroyed by leaving the church- lost their families, got accused of adultery, you name it. One woman was told by a Mormon bishop he would side with her in a divorce case if she had sex with him. She walked out of his office and lost her children. People don't realize how ugly the cult is behind the curtain.

Omgosh, that's terrible! I heard a similar story of a bishop in south america trading food for sex. Disgusting bastards. Ugh.......I hate people who use religion to use peoeple for personal gain. I know I shouldnt hate...but I do.

[AllPurposeAtheist]

Hate can be a good thing in moderation. It's kind of like water. A little bit is good,  a whole lot not so much.

[Solitary]

Ditto! Solitary

[stromboli]

As much as possible you need to reinforce yourself with the rightness of your decision. The cult, any cult, will drive into you that it is the only possible reality. Spending time lurking on the boards that I gave you links to, and looking for groups that are either ex-mormon, atheist or whatever, is a good idea.

One friend of mine that I met while posting on an exmo forum belonged to the Universal Unitarian church
http://www.uua.org/  and was very happy there. They accept all faiths and beliefs; it doesn't matter if you are Buddhist, gay or anything else. Buddhism is interesting, and there are diverse variations on it. Not all Buddhists are vegetarians, for instance.

There is also the Church of Reality
http://www.churchofreality.org/wisdom/does_god_exist/  which is actually atheistic in their views. I get the feeling that you are a people person much more than I am.

The thing to remember always is to be proactive, moving forward. When you get hung up looking back and second guessing decisions is when you get depressed and uncertain. You have made the right decision, press on with your life.

[Aupmanyav]

I feel alone, ..

Every one is alone. Comes alone, goes (if anywhere) alone. You are 21. Married. Did not complete your graduation. Are going to a psychiatrist. Are interested in computer. Love to play piano.

Playing on piano would help you much. Keep it as a hobby. Electronic piano on computer (I do not know much about pianos). Continue on your computer enterprise. That may bring you money needed for your life. Try to complete graduation. Banish all negative thoughts. Get on with life. Hope sessions with the psychiatrist help you. Good that your wife is with you, at least one person who supports you. Best wishes.

BTW, where do you plan to make your conquests?

[pioteir]

You are not alone! The most common misconception (I think) about atheists is that there are so few of us when in fact we are (at least in the U.S) more numerous than several minorities considered big. We're just not loud enough but make no mistake WE'RE HERE!!

The people that excluded You from social life weren't Your friends so don't hurt over losing them.

The biggest obstacle in changing Your life are the people around You. They put pressure on You just so You stay the way they want You to be. That's basically the cult's "guerilla tactics". Don't give in!! Change Your social circle. Maybe move to another town.

You know Your wife the best so You know if You could talk to her about where she is with You leaving the church. You need to know who Your ally is and who's the enemy. It's sad that even Your family is hard on You, difficult as it may be You have to make it clear to them that it's Your decision what to believe in.

What type of manga do You read/ games You play?? Maybe I can suggest some titles :)