I've had a massive crush on this girl at school (Just to clarify I'm female myself)
And she's been dating someone for a long time, I've literally been crying every day for a week because I want to date her so bad.
It's tearing me apart.
I have barely anyone to go to where I live at, I nearly relapsed on self harming recently.
I'm crying right now.
I'm sorry, Jannabear, it's really hard to handle that kind of hurt. Do you have a plan in place in case you can't rasist hurting yourself? Do you cut, or something else?
Don't you wish you could turn that kind of attraction off like a switch?
Quote from: Mermaid on January 31, 2016, 07:52:11 PM
I'm sorry, Jannabear, it's really hard to handle that kind of hurt. Do you have a plan in place in case you can't rasist hurting yourself? Do you cut, or something else?
Don't you wish you could turn that kind of attraction off like a switch?
I haven't self harmed in a long time, I used to self harm alot.
And No, I love her ;-;.
Haha, yeah, I get that. It's really good and really bad at the same time.
I am glad to hear you don't self-harm anymore.
It might be age and a lot of experience with getting jilted and screwed over, but not once in my whole lifetime has an infatuation like the one you're describing worked out even remotely well for me. I imagine it's because it's easy to put people on a pedestal from far away and imagine they're perfect but when you get too close you see that they're flawed humans just like anyone else (and strangely in my experience, more flawed than most).
But I also have the age and experience to know that nothing makes it go away aside from experiencing it for yourself. Time can heal those kinds of wounds, but it doesn't always heal physical ones. Like Mermaid said, I hope you have someone you can open up to and be yourself with. I wish you all the best.
It has to be especially hard for gay and transgender people, since your playing field is smaller.
I hope you find a distraction in the form of a fantastic girl that you are just as attracted to really soon. And one who is single and dates women!
These feelings do fade with time and being young you have time. I've been down this road many times, but now when it happens I rarely give it a second thought. Move on and find someone new.
Don't miss an opportunity to make a friend. I have.
These feelings can be so powerful. Especially when you're younger and might be experiencing them for the first time. It took me a very, very long time to realize something which made these things hurt less and actually made my relationships stronger and healthier.
I remember the moment I came to this realization. I had just recently met the woman who would become my wife. A very good friend of mine was asking me about this hot new relationship I was in. She asked me if this new person was 'the one'. I thought about it for a minute and I said no. She's not the 'the one'. Rather, she's one of 'the ones'.
Its important to realize that you get more than one 'the one'. You don't necessarily get many, but you generally get more than one. Once you realize that, it becomes easier to deal with situations where someone whom you believe is the one is otherwise unavailable or uninterested. It also makes any ensuing relationship healthier to know that while this person you're with is worth keeping and worth fighting for, you will not wither and die or otherwise live the rest of your days without love should they go away for any reason.
I am so glad that finally my hormones are running low. So sorry for what young people have to go thru. Fortunately I was never to obsessed with any one person. I can appreciate beauty, like a great painting, and content to leave it in the museum and not take it home with me.
Quote from: Jannabear on January 31, 2016, 07:41:48 PMIt's tearing me apart.
Is her name Lisa?
(I am so, so sorry.)
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