Before I begin, I want to make it clear I'm not referring to dreams as in the subconscious state we fall into while we sleep. I'm referring to dreams as in hopes and longings people think up and imagine for themselves over time.
Having been though events in my life where outcomes having almost always changed from the hopes I held them to, I have over time become a very clinical person when it comes to the phrase follow your dreams. I have instead began to wake up to a completely different look at life, as just being us riding down an unpredictable river that we do not know the course.
Although there have been thing I've dreamed about having, a nice house, a good job, living with close friends and making something of myself, the reality often is just going day by day just surviving it.
And in that clinical note, what are your thoughts on pursuing a dream, and do they even last?
I used to pursue my dreams but now I simply have too many restraining orders...")
Yes.
My hopes and dreams are [redacted] .
Clinical? Do you perchance mean cynical? If you are a very clinical person, that's rather disturbing.
Quote from: Jason_Harvestdancer on June 09, 2014, 06:21:12 PM
Clinical? Do you perchance mean cynical? If you are a very clinical person, that's rather disturbing.
Yes yes, the fucking auto correct on my tablet sucks.
Worthwhile dreams, yes. Pipe Dreams, probably not.
Depends what one understand by "dreams". It's a loaded term and its inherent implications vary from person to person.
I'd rather call it goals in life, or aspirations. Every person should have both long term and short term goals. It's the beginning of any strategy if you actually want to do something with your life. One also needs to keep in mind that life is unpredictable and will deal you a hand you did not plan for. Having a goal should not mean to be rigid (meaning, "I did not plan for this opportunity, therefore I will pass on it"); it's also important to keep an open mind and identify unforeseen opportunities.
I dream of Jeannie.
I just woke out of a dream my sister would undoubtedly rather not remember if it were true. We were at my parents house in the late 60s at our current ages and I happened to mention a friend was stopping by who happened to be in some 60s boy band so my sister wigs out and starts cutting herself out of every picture in the house with her in it.. Seemed really suspicious so I said, 'You act like he's gonna say.isn't she the chick who brought the acid to the orgies?' to which my sister turned really red and said 'Don't tell dad!'.
Strange dream. I'll have to tell my sister to get her reaction. :lol:
Quote from: Munch on June 09, 2014, 02:37:16 PM
Before I begin, I want to make it clear I'm not referring to dreams as in the subconscious state we fall into while we sleep. I'm referring to dreams as in hopes and longings people think up and imagine for themselves over time.
Dreams as in life goals? Yes they're worthwhile to have.
All dreams are worth having. They're part of who we are...period.
And sometimes they start as dreams and then become a reality.
Aspiring stuff seems okay to me. Even if you don't have the chance to work towards what you aspire, the aspiration will keep you on your toes to spot the chance when it does appear.
And if you do get the chance to work towards what you aspire - even if the results are not always or even never satisfactory - it beats thinking that other people or society or culture or whatever decide what I become.
Quote from: Munch on June 09, 2014, 02:37:16 PM
And in that clinical note, what are your thoughts on pursuing a dream, and do they even last?
Even if you don't achieve your dream, no one ever achieved anything by sitting around and just waiting for stuff to happen to them.
They are only pointless if you never act on them. If you just dream, and don't do anything to achieve your dream, they are pointless. But if you act on them, and achieve some (or all) of what you wanted to achieve, they are worth something, at least to you. That is my answer.
Dreams are fun to have. When growing up(I grew up broke) I dreamed of being a millionaire. Now at the age of 35 I am one. I got there through hard work and a fair amount of luck. Now that I am older I want to be a billionaire(as when I was young I had no idea of the neat shit that costs millions of dollars), will I ever get there? Who knows, but I will work towards it for as long as I have this dream. Maybe some day I'll get there.
Quote from: Munch on June 09, 2014, 02:37:16 PM
Before I begin, I want to make it clear I'm not referring to dreams as in the subconscious state we fall into while we sleep. I'm referring to dreams as in hopes and longings people think up and imagine for themselves over time.
Having been though events in my life where outcomes having almost always changed from the hopes I held them to, I have over time become a very clinical person when it comes to the phrase follow your dreams. I have instead began to wake up to a completely different look at life, as just being us riding down an unpredictable river that we do not know the course.
Although there have been thing I've dreamed about having, a nice house, a good job, living with close friends and making something of myself, the reality often is just going day by day just surviving it.
And in that clinical note, what are your thoughts on pursuing a dream, and do they even last?
Yes and no. Yes in that if you want something that can make you happier, dreams are fine.
NO, even if you plan the likelihood of you becoming rich and famous doing it is slim. In reality most people at best end up in the middle class working for someone else.
Someone told me yesterday that my poetry is becoming more widely known in atheist circles. Scary to me because the thought of living in a fishbowl doesn't sound fun and certainly because my poems are blasphemous the thought of death threats or physical violence isn't appealing to me.
But just like pro sports, actors, famous music artists and even rich business owners, those are the 1%, and most poets will never get noticed.
So it is not an either or proposition. Try something if you want, don't delude yourself be practical, but also know that if it does not work out, you can still do it on the side to fill your off work time to bring you balance.
I got into a car accident in 1997 that ended my dreams then. It took me almost 10 years to figure out what I not only was skilled at but I actually wanted to do.
-Nam