Hi... I am feeling a bit depressed today...I've been an atheist for a number of months now. I feel very much alone most of the time. My entire family and all my friends are Christian except for my younger brother, who is away at college and doesn't always have time to talk about stuff.
I've been watching the atheist experience a lot, and it helps alleviate the stress a little bit.
This morning I commented on this youtube video related to atheism. My comment was a simple remark.. nothing inflammatory or anything.. it didn't even have any opinion , just what My reaction was when I was watching the video. My comment was hidden due to the number of thumbs down and I got two negative replies; while one of the other comments that said nearly the same thing had the most thumbs up. Like wth? This is part of the reason I am feeling depressed. It seems like 9 out of 10 things I post online, nobody likes. I feel like everyone hates me. I also have difficulty making friends. Even the friends that I sort of have never come around. No one ever seems to really like me enough to actually become a friend. Now I am an atheist and I can't seem to ever get out of people's hatred. I realize this might seem like it's totally unrelated but I feel like these things are all intertwined.
Most of the time I am a very happy person. I'm happy with who I am. I have a great life. But every once in a while I feel really trapped in my world. So I'm hoping to find some friendliness here on this forum. So thank you to anyone who reads this.
Yeah, other people suck. Hypocritical, lying, tribalistic, self-righteous, stupid, selfish, Hypocritical, assholes. Even on this forum. But some of them aren't! Almost 0.5%! But when people get you down, may I suggest just playing lots of violent video games? For example, in Grand Theft Auto 4, you can drive your car up onto the sidewalk and run down hordes of people. If that doesn't work, I don't know what will. Except for drugs. Drugs would probably work.
Oh, welcome to the forum and whatnot. I'm Farroc.
Thumbs up and thumbs down? Surely you don't want to fashion your self image from the likes and dislikes of the people who comment on Utube, or yahoo for that matter. But I do recommend reading yahoo comments on news articles. It's a good way to get a perspective on the lack of intellectual where-with-all of today's society. It would seem like half the population hasn't yet heard about the age of enlightenment.
I, too, have occasionally run into that phenomenon of people on some websites hating 90% of what I have to say. Fortunately I am an extremely jaded individual thanks to a wonderful combination of Asperger's Syndrome and no special schooling, and thus am unable to give a shit.
Also, welcome to the forum! :-D
Welcome. As a thinking human, you can pick and choose your places to converse, or if necessary do battle. Youtube and Facebook always seemed farcical to me, so I avoid them. Reddit is pretty wacky and out there, but far friendlier to atheists. Look around. The internet is a big place.
Hello :) thank you guys for replying.
Sgos-Haha, like I said, I am happy with who I am. What gets me down is feeling like it is pointless to try to communicate with anyone as I always feel like I will only get negativity in return. I realize that believing that is irrational but it's difficult to not feel like that all the same.
Welcome!
I try to not to be insulting and try to stick to ideas and facts. If someone disagrees with me that is fine. I will disagree with someone on one topic and agree with the same person on another topic. It is called being a freethinker.
Atheists agree on one matter. Everything else is up in the air, despite what some atheists believe. So, while I may not agree with you always, when I do agree with you, you'll know I am sincere. Besides, it wouldn't be much fun here, if everyone agreed on everything.
Some people like to attack the person rather then the ideas. Frankly, this bores me. And I don't get bored too easily. Still, if you look past these posters, then you can have a lot of fun here. Just remember that the poster only reflects his/her own views and doesn't speak for the rest of us. Oh yeah, if I agree with what everybody else seems to be saying, I usually don't even post, unless I think I can add something new.
Well welcome and all that crap. :-D
Welcome aboard :) I don't see any reason to act negative towards you. Maybe the people try to converse with just suck.
Quote from: "stromboli"Youtube and Facebook always seemed farcical to me, so I avoid them.
I cancelled Facebook because of all the pointless drivel that's on it, but I did feel out of the loop when a guy I know started quarreling with his girlfriend in public on Facebook. I had to hear about from other people, and the neighborhood was all a'buzz. Apparently others joined into what should have been a private disagreement. It was like a huge local event. But all's well that ends well, and last I heard, he's now posting love poems to his honey on Facebook. LOL
Yeah. I know that feeling, it's almost impossible to keep in touch with people if you don't use facebook. I had to make one just because it was impossible to reach some of my friends otherwise because it was the only thing where they were really reachable (outside of maybe direct-call, but I hate direct-call)
Hai & welcome!
I'll just put what I am going to type out there & you do not have to take any of it literally. You need to go outside more, I say that because based on your post, it looks like that you sit down on your personal computer most of the day, surfing the interwebz while you are waiting for your younger brother to return from college. To be frank with you & with myself, I dislike people, the general public & I enjoy being alone, however, in your case, you feel alone & the only way to feel otherwise is to stop being alone. Now I dunno if you attend college or have any kind of work but if you don't, then look for a job & from there you'll know pleasant people & also the most disgusting individuals, which is fine.
(Correct me if I made any wrong deductions about your life)
Hope I helped!
Welcome to the forum! :-D
Yeah, Youtube is full of people whose sole purpose in life seems to be to create arguments and piss people off. I'd say either avoid it, rise above it, or grow a thicker skin. Do you really care what some spotty oik in Idaho thinks about your post? Probably not. Screw 'em :twisted:
No, toilet is for staff only.
Quote from: "Cyanne"Hi... I am feeling a bit depressed today...I've been an atheist for a number of months now. I feel very much alone most of the time. My entire family and all my friends are Christian except for my younger brother, who is away at college and doesn't always have time to talk about stuff.
I've been watching the atheist experience a lot, and it helps alleviate the stress a little bit.
This morning I commented on this youtube video related to atheism. My comment was a simple remark.. nothing inflammatory or anything.. it didn't even have any opinion , just what My reaction was when I was watching the video. My comment was hidden due to the number of thumbs down and I got two negative replies; while one of the other comments that said nearly the same thing had the most thumbs up. Like wth? This is part of the reason I am feeling depressed. It seems like 9 out of 10 things I post online, nobody likes. I feel like everyone hates me. I also have difficulty making friends. Even the friends that I sort of have never come around. No one ever seems to really like me enough to actually become a friend. Now I am an atheist and I can't seem to ever get out of people's hatred. I realize this might seem like it's totally unrelated but I feel like these things are all intertwined.
Most of the time I am a very happy person. I'm happy with who I am. I have a great life. But every once in a while I feel really trapped in my world. So I'm hoping to find some friendliness here on this forum. So thank you to anyone who reads this.
Besides atheists who live in big cities or majority atheist countries, we do have many members on this site, as well as others who are in the same boat you are, including me. I live in the sticks in a Southern state. My co workers are "fine" knowing I am an atheist but will get angry at me if I talk about it. Most recently my younger sister de converted and our biological family went ape shit upon finding out.
Basically you are not alone. All many atheists depending on where they live, all they have is an on line community. But rest assured you will have plenty of support here and at other websites. And in the future you can travel to meetings and conventions and even move to a larger atheist community.
Now, be sure to barbecue kittens, record the NFL without their permission and rip the tags off of your mattress.
Oh and outside the issue of atheism. I can tell you growing up, trying to get people to like you is bullshit. I did that and all it did was make me a doormat. You have to accept yourself first and be yourself. You will find that there will always be people who don't like you. But if you also stop caring about what people think of you, your eyes will open and you will see that there are always people who like you as well.
I have enough friends in my life, and I can count them on one hand. In reality that is really all you need. Those who love you no matter what are small in number, the rest is a bullshit popularity contest.
Just be yourself, when you do that, it shows and is much healthier for you mentally.
> I feel like everyone hates me.
I think most people feel that way. And most of those that don't are so stuck on themselves, that everyone really does hate them.
Everyone doesn't hate you. The truth is actually much worse: most people just don't care. Because they don't care, it's easy, especially when insulated by miles of fiber optic cable and HTML, to do someone dirt.
Welcome to the forum. You will find some kindred spirits, and some who aren't so much. Hope you have a good experience here.
Frank
Quote from: "Cyanne"What gets me down is feeling like it is pointless to try to communicate with anyone as I always feel like I will only get negativity in return.
Keep trying to tell 4 year olds that there's no monster under their beds and you'll get the same response atheism does from theists. If you want to start feeling better start talking to adults (mental adults - as far as I'm concerned, theists are mental children).
And welcome to the forum.
Try Meetup.com. Just type 'atheist' in your search and how many miles you're willing to drive to attend a meeting. You just might turn up a group in your area and instantly multiply the number of atheists you know. If that doesn't work, try 'freethought' or 'humanism'. If that doesn't work, maybe you can start one...but try it on FB first, that's free.
Quote from: "Antyla"Hai & welcome!
I'll just put what I am going to type out there & you do not have to take any of it literally. You need to go outside more, I say that because based on your post, it looks like that you sit down on your personal computer most of the day, surfing the interwebz while you are waiting for your younger brother to return from college. To be frank with you & with myself, I dislike people, the general public & I enjoy being alone, however, in your case, you feel alone & the only way to feel otherwise is to stop being alone. Now I dunno if you attend college or have any kind of work but if you don't, then look for a job & from there you'll know pleasant people & also the most disgusting individuals, which is fine.
(Correct me if I made any wrong deductions about your life)
Hope I helped!
You made me laugh :)
I'm 24 and I own a home business B) I buy some of my merchandise from local people so you could say I get out, see people face to face but I find it difficult to get friends out of that.
I mostly feel the same about people as you and I struggled for years trying to 'be more outgoing' before realizing it. I still wish I had maybe just a couple good friends though.
Thank you all for replying, I will keep all of that in mind. I think I will feel right at home here :)
Welcome, Cyanne!
Yea people suck! :-D
May I ask what part of the world you're from?
also...
What kind of business do you run? :)
Quote from: "Onii-chan"Maybe grow up and learn to not get mad over a youtube comment.
If you are 24 years old and still get mad over things people say on the internet you have more important issues to deal with.
Oh yeah sure. I'm throwing a huge tantrum right now over you. Waaaaah.
Quote from: "PickelledEggs"Welcome, Cyanne!
Yea people suck! :-D
May I ask what part of the world you're from?
also...
What kind of business do you run? :)
I'm a cell phone dealer in California :)
Quote from: "Cyanne"Hi... I am feeling a bit depressed today...I've been an atheist for a number of months now. I feel very much alone most of the time. My entire family and all my friends are Christian except for my younger brother, who is away at college and doesn't always have time to talk about stuff.
I've been watching the atheist experience a lot, and it helps alleviate the stress a little bit.
This morning I commented on this youtube video related to atheism. My comment was a simple remark.. nothing inflammatory or anything.. it didn't even have any opinion , just what My reaction was when I was watching the video. My comment was hidden due to the number of thumbs down and I got two negative replies; while one of the other comments that said nearly the same thing had the most thumbs up. Like wth? This is part of the reason I am feeling depressed. It seems like 9 out of 10 things I post online, nobody likes. I feel like everyone hates me. I also have difficulty making friends. Even the friends that I sort of have never come around. No one ever seems to really like me enough to actually become a friend. Now I am an atheist and I can't seem to ever get out of people's hatred. I realize this might seem like it's totally unrelated but I feel like these things are all intertwined.
Most of the time I am a very happy person. I'm happy with who I am. I have a great life. But every once in a while I feel really trapped in my world. So I'm hoping to find some friendliness here on this forum. So thank you to anyone who reads this.
If you FINALLY opened your eyes that the god thing is bullshit. You most resolve that you are one of the few that has decided to enter the world of reality and think for yourself. Yes it's a bit lonely. The god delussional mob up and think like a mob. They try to exclude you from all the reindeer games, but you will survive the alienation, believe me. The hardest part is family. People you thought you could trust for no other reason than being related. They become the most viament because they think that they can "save" you from yourself. What they want to do is save you from the truth, a truth that they refuse to accept or justare just too affraid to accept.
:-D Welcome aboard Cyanne! Feel sorry for people that hate because they are just miserable and want others to be hurt like they are. I have people here that hate me just because their opinions and delusions are different than mine. It's like God hates me, and I hate Him back. People that are angry are hurt emotionally, and if they hate their anger is hurting them even more. Other people's opinions about you don't say who you are, but it says a lot about them---they're asses, and that includes the hole. :shock: :wink: :roll: :lol: Solitary