Started by bob nelson, December 13, 2020, 06:55:00 PM
Quote from: drunkenshoe on December 14, 2020, 07:43:53 AMI didn't care about when I was a teenager, but I wouldn't know why or how if I did I guess. My first bf was a secular muslim, also his family. It started at the second grade and ended when I was in univ, second year. Then I have never had any believers but it went that way naturally. Now at 43 -I don't want to take a bite bigger than I can swallow, it is love after all- but it seems like I wouldn't be able to stand a believer of any kind as a significant other. The most likely candidate would be a liberal jew, but then they are mostly atheists and around here they're really scarce.
Quote from: drunkenshoe on December 14, 2020, 07:43:53 AM.... but it seems like I wouldn't be able to stand a believer of any kind as a significant other....
Quote from: Mike Cl on December 13, 2020, 08:36:29 PMWow, Bob--don't really know what to say; I do admire your ability to deal with that situation! I don't think I could live in that situation--but that's you and not me. Actually, my first marriage was to a lady that was the opposite to me, but personality wise, not religious or philosophical differences. It was prickly at times, but because of my daughter, I held it together for 22 years. But I finally had to divorce my mate for my own sanity. I did feel much better after that, and life became much easier to deal with. Why are you still willing to stick with your wife and live in a 'toxic' (to you) situation?
Quote from: bob nelson on December 14, 2020, 05:31:39 PMIt probably works because we decided to stick it out because of the kids. My wife's parent's were divorced and it was very hard on her. We do agree on a lot of issues, like how to raise our kids(other than religion),to have a good work-ethic, to be empathetic of others, and to work for what you want. Nothing comes for free. I have music to help me deal with life(13 surgeries since 2010),and my wife and kids understand that I'm just different than they are. We figured out how to make it work.
Quote from: Mike Cl on December 14, 2020, 06:36:53 PMIf it works for you and it works for her and it works for your children, then rock on! No union is perfect, so if it mostly works then it is worth keeping. I simply wish you and her the best.
Quote from: GSOgymrat on December 14, 2020, 09:03:37 AMMy husband is Catholic, conservative, extroverted, opinionated, and passionate. I'm an atheist, liberal, introverted, indifferent, and easygoing. He sits in his chair talking for hours on the phone to various friends while I sit beside him in my chair reading a book. We have been happy together for 28 years. We don't often talk about religion because he's not very religious and I have little interest in Christianity. The only time I can remember religion being an issue was when he was very sick from chemotherapy and the priest from his church would come and pray with him. I know he would have liked for me to join them but I wasn't comfortable participating and he didn't want me there if I wasn't sincere. We never spoke about it but I knew he wished I could have prayed with him when he was very sick. I felt bad that he needed something when he was suffering that I couldn't give him.
Quote from: drunkenshoe on December 16, 2020, 08:20:22 AMThat's interesting. I have never thought of you as an indifferent introvert.