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CET The Spiritual Atheist

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Posted: Mon Dec 11, 2006 6:44 pm Post subject: |
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| CET wrote: | | In my experience, individuals who are happy, successful and fulfilled can almost always recite their purpose in life at the drop of a hate. Individuals who are unhappy, unsuccessful and unfulfilled almost always stumble and stammer when asked what their purpose is. |
| AiiA wrote: | Success does not mean happiness.
Unsuccessful does not mean unhappiness.
Fulfilled does not mean happiness.
Unfulfilled does not mean unhappiness.
Lack of purpose does not mean unhappiness.
Purpose does not mean happiness. |
True.
I can name happy people that were not successful. Most college kids leap to mind.
I can name successful people that were not happy. Anyone wearing golden handcuffs leaps to mind.
I use the word fulfillment to describe being happy, successful and free. I think we want those things and we want them durably.
I argue, that most people who die full of bitterness and resentment never knew and lived out their purpose.
I also argue, that most people who die a happy and peaceful death knew their purpose and lived it.
A life without purpose is lived just drifting about from one experience to another. No direction. Inherently meaningless and empty.
I argue that durable fulfillment comes from knowing your purpose and living it.
Now, try go interview random people and find out for yourself. Do unhappy, unsuccessful and unfulfilled people know the purpose of thier life? Do happy, successful and fulfilled people know the purpose of thier life? After you're done, then you'll know if I'm blowing smoke or if there's something to what I've said. _________________ Namaste,
CET
The Spiritual Atheist
"Much of the suffering in the world comes from the delusion that we are separate from one another." - Gautama Buddha
"Those who dance are considered insane by those who can't hear the music." - George Carlin |
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Moloth Coin Operated Boy

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Posted: Mon Dec 11, 2006 7:20 pm Post subject: |
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| CET wrote: | | CET wrote: | | In my experience, individuals who are happy, successful and fulfilled can almost always recite their purpose in life at the drop of a hate. Individuals who are unhappy, unsuccessful and unfulfilled almost always stumble and stammer when asked what their purpose is. |
| Moloth wrote: | | *waves* hi! i'm the latter that wants to be the former! |
There's a few ways to go about it, but they're all basically the same thing.
1. What do you HAVE to see happen before you die?
2. Write your obituary with your deepest desire fulfilled.
3. Sit in a quiet room with nothing but a blank notebook and a pencil (or a pen). Sit there and stare at the paper until you write something down or until 15 minutes passes. Do that every day until you write something down.
4. Do 3, but take a vacation to a solitude place for at least 24 hours. Don't take in ANY media or read ANYTHING. No TV, no books, no computer, no street signs, NOTHING.
When you realize what your purpose is and you align your life towards it, everything changes. Your diet changes, your clothes change, your body language changes, your attitudes and views change, your words change. |
heh.. read my blog from about Nov. 1st to now... http://www.moloth.com/2006/11/page/3/ start at the bottom and go up. then, go back down to "next Entries" to go to the next page of November posts...
| CET wrote: | | I discovered my purpose close to a year ago, and a lot of things went into motion at that point. I have more friends then I've ever had. I get along with my family better then ever. I've got the GF I've always wanted, and who's hopelessly and desperately in love with me. I'm working on a business plan that will express my purpose AND make me a millionaire before I'm 50 (Reggie's gettin a windfall when that happens). |
see? THAT is what *I* want. _________________ -=The Believer is Happy; the Skeptic is Wise=-
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CET The Spiritual Atheist

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Posted: Mon Dec 11, 2006 8:22 pm Post subject: |
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| Moloth wrote: | | heh.. read my blog from about Nov. 1st to now... http://www.moloth.com/2006/11/page/3/ start at the bottom and go up. then, go back down to "next Entries" to go to the next page of November posts... |
Interesting. You've arrived at a pivotal place. You're fueled and ready for something more. I recommend you check out this series: On Being a Man. I got my copy off of eMule. No matter HOW you get it, just get it.
Also, I strongly suggest you check out my blog, I think you'll find some useful things there. The link is in my siggy. As with yours, start at the bottom.
Edit:
When I say "I got the GF I've always wanted", that doesn't mean I've been chasing after her for years. I've only known her for about 1 1/2 years. What I mean is, she has all the qualities I've ever wanted in a woman. A couple of years ago I wouldn't have noticed her, because I wouldn't have recognized her for who she is. When we did meet, I was in a place where I saw the qualities that she had and I decided that I wanted her in my life. I made my bold move and the rest is history.
First thing's first, you have to know what you want, THEN go after it. _________________ Namaste,
CET
The Spiritual Atheist
"Much of the suffering in the world comes from the delusion that we are separate from one another." - Gautama Buddha
"Those who dance are considered insane by those who can't hear the music." - George Carlin |
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Uncertainty Forum Master


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Posted: Mon Dec 11, 2006 9:06 pm Post subject: |
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| CET wrote: |
I discovered my purpose close to a year ago, and a lot of things went into motion at that point. I have more friends then I've ever had. I get along with my family better then ever. I've got the GF I've always wanted, and who's hopelessly and desperately in love with me. I'm working on a business plan that will express my purpose AND make me a millionaire before I'm 50 (Reggie's gettin a windfall when that happens). |
What is it? If you don't mind telling us that is.
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I still don't really get what someone would make their "purpose" Razz. I don't know the whole word just jumbles my head up and I can't even think about how to say what I mean Razz. It must be Jesus trying to get to me.
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Well maybe thats the problem. How do you define purpose and how much value do you give to it?
Like the way I define purpose is no where near the way the people in ChrissyFos's example would define it. |
I don't define it in any special way, go look up the word and thats how I define it . I've never considered it important and never got why other people used it to refer to their life. The only way it makes sense to me is if someone devotes their life to one thing, like they go live in a poor country and help people and they say thats their "purpose". But for the average person it doesn't make sense to me, unless they use it to refer to short term goals, in which case it just seems like a poor word choice. |
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CET The Spiritual Atheist

Joined: 02 Apr 2003 Posts: 12844 Local time: 12:15 AM Location: SoCal, USA

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Posted: Mon Dec 11, 2006 9:46 pm Post subject: |
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| CET wrote: | | I discovered my purpose close to a year ago, and a lot of things went into motion at that point. I have more friends then I've ever had. I get along with my family better then ever. I've got the GF I've always wanted, and who's hopelessly and desperately in love with me. I'm working on a business plan that will express my purpose AND make me a millionaire before I'm 50 (Reggie's gettin a windfall when that happens). |
| Uncertainty wrote: | | What is it? If you don't mind telling us that is. |
My puropse in life is to improve the health of humanity. _________________ Namaste,
CET
The Spiritual Atheist
"Much of the suffering in the world comes from the delusion that we are separate from one another." - Gautama Buddha
"Those who dance are considered insane by those who can't hear the music." - George Carlin |
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Polaris
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Posted: Mon Dec 11, 2006 9:56 pm Post subject: |
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CET,
Where did you go for so long? Nice to see you back. |
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CET The Spiritual Atheist

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Posted: Mon Dec 11, 2006 10:58 pm Post subject: |
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| Polaris wrote: | CET,
Where did you go for so long? Nice to see you back. |
Sup Polaris!
*throws a high 5*
I had learn some stuff about me. Check through this thread and you'll find out a bit about it.
I'm back until someone speaks the word that I cannot hear.  _________________ Namaste,
CET
The Spiritual Atheist
"Much of the suffering in the world comes from the delusion that we are separate from one another." - Gautama Buddha
"Those who dance are considered insane by those who can't hear the music." - George Carlin |
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naturalist Forum Plebian


Joined: 21 Sep 2006 Posts: 121 Local time: 6:15 PM Location: augusta,ga
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Posted: Wed Dec 13, 2006 10:30 pm Post subject: |
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Notice how theists aver that if we have no future state, life would be meaningless.That is a non-seqitur .What I am doing right now is meaningful to me and I hope , to others , but does not need an everlasting foundation. I grieve over the passing of my mother, but she is still meaningful for me . _________________ Fr. Griggs rests in his Socratic ignorance and humble naturalism. Logic is the bane of theists. |
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Zotikos Forum Plebian


Joined: 29 Mar 2006 Posts: 215 Local time: 6:15 PM
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Posted: Fri Dec 15, 2006 4:38 am Post subject: |
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| Seeing the day my purpose in life is filled will be all the proof I need for the existence of an benevolent god. |
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pr126 resident misanthrope

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Posted: Fri Dec 15, 2006 5:20 am Post subject: |
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| Zotikos wrote: | | Seeing the day my purpose in life is filled will be all the proof I need for the existence of an benevolent god. |
And a happy afterlife. Most important!
Mind you, I think Mohammad was more imaginative with throwing in all the trimmings: 72 virgins, pearly boys, rivers of wine , gold, silver, etc. etc.
Still time to take advantage of the special offers!
Anyway, it is worth shopping around. I would go for the host with the most.
After all, any Muslim cleric will tell you that you are worshipping the same god, the god of the Christians, the god of the Jews, and Allah. I think it is bullshit, but he is the cleric, what do I know.
Now Allah will ask you to kill a few infidels to get the perks, but which god wouldn't?
Think it over. Your eternity depends on it.  _________________ “The hardest thing to explain is the glaringly evident which everybody had decided not to see.” - Ayn Rand |
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benyjets23 Royal Citizen


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Posted: Fri Dec 15, 2006 6:37 am Post subject: |
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I have a weak faith, but I still have faith. However to keep with the the atheistic slant on this board, I will speak without reference too it.
Maybe purpose has too many Theistic sounding vibes to it, so I will speak of passion. Even if there is no overarching purpose, we all have passion, or at least we have the ability to cultivate passion. Even people who are in dire straights can devlop passion. I would hate to live like Chris Reeves did for the last 10 years, however I think he had passion, both because his renewed sense of closeness to his wife and son and because he continued being involved with movies.
My passion..... Let me give a context that some morons may misuse. I am obese, I eat due to depression and anxiety reasons. Comfort. The last few months I have made a commitment to deal with my food addcition from both a psychological as well as a phsyical level (Gastric Bypass). What drives me to the above. Two reasons:
A.) Health Reasons (high blood pressure, high cholesterol, Type 2 diabetes)
B.) My passion: I have this passion that every time I think about it almost physically creates sensations of warmth and butterflys. I have always wanted to travel, to do the back packing trip across The Indian Sub Continent and South East Asia. I have also wanted to do some travels on the wild side, places that the typical package tourist does not see(Deep Amazonia, Piroque the length of the Congo through the DRC Etc.)
Even if I came into Millions of dollars, I would still not be able to do the above trips. Why? I would not enjoy it, I am too big and too out of shape to do the budget thing, I would be too limited. I go on some package deal, but could I ride on autorickshaws, canoe, take camel safaris at 500 lbs? Fuck no. Hence my passion drives me to seek help and get healthy.
The other thing about passion and purpose, is that we should not think of either in the singular, but in the plural. We can have many purposes and many passions. Thats the ideal. For example, If my only passion was travel, but I lose my job and can't find a job that pays enough to support my travels I am royaly fucked. How ever if I have other passions: relationships, reading, hobbies etc. you won't have all your eggs in one basket. Traveling would not be fun if my entire life revolved around either the 4 weeks a year I can travel, or every few years when I can go back packing for 6 months. Life would suck with my home life is spent wasting away in anticipation of some future plan.
Ben
P.S.: I don't want to thread jack, so please lets not make my point as a starting point to change the trajectory of this thread. Some times people express a misunderstanding of Theistic purpose as if it is about obligation (Have Children, obey the Lord, Read The Bible Etc.), while we all have functional purposes in our lives, the Theist, whether right or wrong, feels an existential purpose as well, that mere obligation does not do justice to. So strawmen should be avoided when writing about other people. |
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Moloth Coin Operated Boy

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Posted: Fri Dec 15, 2006 8:08 am Post subject: |
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passion is not a bad way to put it, either. I've often used that term instead of 'purpose'.
I very much enjoy people's company who have a fire, a burning passion for something in life... something that they are so committed to, something so a part of themselves that it gives them meaning... you never have to wonder why they wake up in the morning. _________________ -=The Believer is Happy; the Skeptic is Wise=-
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Friend thinking
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Posted: Fri Dec 15, 2006 8:51 am Post subject: |
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purpose - the reason for which something exists or is done, made, used, etc.
If you want to know your purpose, you have to ask what reason you give yourself for your existence beyond the mere fact of having been procreated. Purpose is the reason you give yourself for why you continue living. That is all, but even so, it doesn't have to be a trivial matter. For instance, I find one of the huge things in life that really buzzes me up is the idea of helping to bring about a better age where a sort of ethical naturalism is championed by all as the most honest form factor through which all can come to be understood. This is a major hope I carry, which I try to help others carry as well. |
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kmisho Stochastic

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I love it when believers say that many other believers have it wrong...
If there is a straw man here, it's created by theists who think that god gives them 'purpose.'
If you can make reference to a passion for life or in life without reference to a deity, this only demonstrates that it is not necessary to appeal to a deity to have such things as purpose or passion or meaning...which only supports the atheistic stance.
I'm nost sure that passion all by itself is a good thing. It depends on what you're passionate about.
"Hate will get you out of bed in the morning." _________________ K Michau
Now this religion happens to prevail/Until by that one it is overthrown/Because men dare not live with men alone/But always with another fairy tale.
al-Ma'arri, Syrian Poet, died 1057
You deny the existence of 999 alleged Gods. I merely deny one more - yours.
John MacKinnon Robertson, "Godism" 1896
"Never is a long time." Robert Fripp, 1998
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Moloth Coin Operated Boy

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Posted: Fri Dec 15, 2006 9:06 am Post subject: |
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| kmisho wrote: | I love it when believers say that many other believers have it wrong...
If there is a straw man here, it's created by theists who think that god gives them 'purpose.'
If you can make reference to a passion for life or in life without reference to a deity, this only demonstrates that it is not necessary to appeal to a deity to have such things as purpose or passion or meaning...which only supports the atheistic stance.
I'm nost sure that passion all by itself is a good thing. It depends on what you're passionate about.
"Hate will get you out of bed in the morning." |
oh, yes, i agree... i didn't mean to imply that passion was necessarily something positive. "passion" runs the spectrum of emotion and goals. _________________ -=The Believer is Happy; the Skeptic is Wise=-
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