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xena
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It may be used as a last resort, no idea.
It certainly eased a lot of my nerve pain almost immediately (though not completely) and, well, I've never slept so well or felt so relaxed.
But that's my reaction.
I have been given so many anti-depressants throughout my life which have caused more damage than helped and have actually, if not probably, been the result of the nerve pain I now have *cough* Prozac..
So, I'm well pleased. |
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PJS
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| Posted: Sat Jul 12, 2008 1:43 pm Post subject: Re: Evaluating yourself |
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| Rollover wrote: | | I don't know if this belongs here, but I will attempt a shot in the dark at what I am thinking. How does one evaluate their self, identify there own character flaws/shortcomings. Other than in anger, I rarely find a person who shares this information with another. I feels strange asking this, as it seems some what superficial, or rather that I care how the world or anyone views me, but at the same time it is something I want to know. |
Ben Franklin developed an elaborate system where he would evaluate himself each day along thirteen different virtues. Each virtue was linked to specific behaviors that he should or should not perform. He attributed an increase in his personal happiness to this system. He never claimed to not fall short in some measures but believed his approach was helpful in both self-improvement and enjoyment in life.
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Tornado_Creator
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| RyanDzundza wrote: | | xena wrote: | | Tornado_Creator wrote: | | If I was to evaluate my own shortcomings I would say Anger is becoming less of one. Cynicism, Laziness and Jealousy are my biggest shortcomings. They tend to rule over my life in that my actions are often twisted by one of those three. Anger used to be one of my biggest shortcomings but today it's not, I show a lot of anger still but it's different to how it was, I used to have uncontrollable anger. I don't think I've used a violent solution to a problem in 8-9 years. I feel our shortcomings are fluid, I wonder what mine will be in the future. |
Yeah right, seen your ignore list lately?
Still an issue mate
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maybe that why he is less angry  |
I wonder how long it will take xena to realise that I only see her posts when someone else quotes them... I wonder how many of those "You have added this person to your Ignore List. Click HERE to view this post." are posts directed at me.
Nah, honestly Ryan I've been less angry for years and my anger is petering away more and more every year. The fact that I'm ignoring idiots on the internet is merely proof that I'm more patient than I once was. Originally I was unsure as to whether I should have put xena on the list as she only really annoyed me once where as Dawk had many many chances before I finally added him, however seeing some of the posts that have been quoted and seeing how petty and pathetic she is, (despite the fact that I cannot see her posts), shows that it was a really good idea after all.
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runlikehell
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I lack the capacity to love. 
Not really. But my biggest shortcoming, or at least the one that bothers me the most, is that I'm often emotionally distant. I have lots of good friends and am pretty social but all the relationships I've been in have failed because I just didn't put enough into them. I just can't get close to someone.
And I guess that seems like nothing compared to someone whose only contact with other people is on the internet, but really this is my characteristic that scares me the most. I have fears of never falling in love and living out my life alone. It scares me more because I feel like being close to people grounds you into reality- without interacting with fellow humans you slip into a mental realm and lose contact with the nature and life around you.
Basically, my shortcoming is a conflict between my aloof self and my social instincts instilled by millions of years of natural selection.
As for things I pride myself for, I prize my ability of observation. I watch things and people and think about what's going on. It's kinda creepy but when I'm with my friends all the little things, the unconscious flickers of thought that cross their faces and the hidden meanings of what they say, is stored in my head. I analyze people's psychological motives and thought processes. The downside is that when I turn the lens on myself I find my own processes and motives quite wanting.
If there was an angst emoticon, it would be right here:
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Dawkadoodle
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| When I read "Ejaculating Yourself" as the thread title, I was severely freaked out on what the contents of this thread would contain. However, I read the title again and realised it didn't say that at all. |
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joshuas3521
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| Dawkadoodle wrote: | | When I read "Ejaculating Yourself" as the thread title, I was severely freaked out on what the contents of this thread would contain. However, I read the title again and realised it didn't say that at all. |
I know how you feel. Every time I see the word "creamery", I read "crematorium".
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Eyedunno
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| Posted: Sat Aug 23, 2008 8:57 pm Post subject: |
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| joshuas3521 wrote: | | Dawkadoodle wrote: | | When I read "Ejaculating Yourself" as the thread title, I was severely freaked out on what the contents of this thread would contain. However, I read the title again and realised it didn't say that at all. |
I know how you feel. Every time I see the word "creamery", I read "crematorium". |
So is it strange that I was thinking of visiting a creamery for evaluation purposes? |
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Wickedtruth
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I tend to be a workaholic who spends to much time at the office and ignore most of my social life. I am a team player and always willing to help the company. I am meticulous and organized to the point of irritation. I always respect my superiors and subordinates....and...waittttttt>>>?
This isn't a job application? NM :X |
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Mr_C
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| Posted: Sat Aug 23, 2008 10:28 pm Post subject: |
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| I never learned how to read. |
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Wickedtruth
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| Mr_C wrote: | | I never learned how to read. |
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Raskolnikov
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| joshuas3521 wrote: | | My largest shortcoming is my lack of social skills. I cannot talk to another person in real life (and often on the internet) without embarrassing myself, so I generally avoid people whenever possible. |
Same with me. I have the most trouble talking with girls. I am unable to carry conversations with them beyond a few sentences. For example:
Girl: Hey Tyler, how are you?
Tyler: I am well, thank you.
*awkward silence*
Girl: Ummm... Bye...
Tyler: Bye.
(99% of the time it ends with an awkward silence)
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Mr_C
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| Posted: Sat Aug 23, 2008 10:52 pm Post subject: |
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| Wickedtruth wrote: | | Mr_C wrote: | | I never learned how to read. |
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I like dem french fried taters mhhh. |
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chookrooter
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Not really. But my biggest shortcoming, or at least the one that bothers me the most, is that I'm often emotionally distant. |
If you add poor social skills,lack of sensitivity,limited empathy and self absorption, imo you've described the majority of regulars you will find on just about any internet forum.
ME? I've become a misanthropic recluse.I often go months without physical contact with another human being I care about or who or who cares about me (not that there are many of those.) Not good at intimate relationships, I stopped seeking them about 5 years ago,at age 55. My last romantic relationship was from age 46 to 53.
What changed? I discovered I did not an do not need others in the way I had always thought. (IE being dependent) I also discovered there is a significant difference between loneliness which I see as grieving for the company of others and solitiude,which I see as finding contentment in one's own company.
I've also learned it's possible to accept oneself as one s right at this moment--after all, "now" is all we ever really have. |
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ShaSha
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| chookrooter wrote: | | Quote: |
Not really. But my biggest shortcoming, or at least the one that bothers me the most, is that I'm often emotionally distant. |
If you add poor social skills,lack of sensitivity,limited empathy and self absorption, imo you've described the majority of regulars you will find on just about any internet forum.
ME? I've become a misanthropic recluse.I often go months without physical contact with another human being I care about or who or who cares about me (not that there are many of those.) Not good at intimate relationships, I stopped seeking them about 5 years ago,at age 55. My last romantic relationship was from age 46 to 53.
What changed? I discovered I did not an do not need others in the way I had always thought. (IE being dependent) I also discovered there is a significant difference between loneliness which I see as grieving for the company of others and solitiude,which I see as finding contentment in one's own company.
I've also learned it's possible to accept oneself as one s right at this moment--after all, "now" is all we ever really have. |
Do you really think the first paragraph is true? I am probably forumed out but my purpose for joining them were to learn about others, mostly their spiritual inclinations. I'm pretty much opposite of the first paragraph description except for the self absorption. I am mostly focused on my life but it is intertwined closely with family and a few friends and quite a few "friendlies".
Otherwise I agree with the rest of your post. Solitude is great. |
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Rortykiller
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| Posted: Mon Aug 25, 2008 12:04 pm Post subject: Re: Evaluating yourself |
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| Rollover wrote: | | I don't know if this belongs here, but I will attempt a shot in the dark at what I am thinking. How does one evaluate their self, identify there own character flaws/shortcomings. Other than in anger, I rarely find a person who shares this information with another. I feels strange asking this, as it seems some what superficial, or rather that I care how the world or anyone views me, but at the same time it is something I want to know. |
i find people are pretty willing to tell me about my short comings. I feel like someone tells me whats wrong with me at least once a day.
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